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Death is always difficult no matter what age
you’re at. Even more when it's a suicide
death, as it is associated by confusion and even
anger. If you are experiencing suicidal
feelings, are mourning the loss of someone you
loved, or you know someone who is, please get
help or talk to someone you trust.
The first thing you need to realize is that
suicide is not about wanting to die. It’s
about wanting the pain to stop. It’s
desperation reaching out its hand and begging
for release from life’s torments. It’s a
desire for freedom from a pain that is so
overwhelming that you feel utterly hopeless and
helpless.
Someone who is suicidal does not want to die,
they want to live. They just don’t know how to
live anymore. They need help. They need
direction. They need encouragement.
The past insists on being heard in the present,
but if only the present could be heard in the
past. If only you could talk to the people in
the past and tell them what they have done...
Feeling guilty
about the death will not help. Remember them
don’t wallow in there passing away. Try
something new to help prevent it.
Listen and look for of suicidal behavior::
Severe depression, loss of a loved one,
major changes, the use of alcohol and drugs,
mental illness, severe physical conditions,
traumatic events (rape, kidnapping, mugging,
etc.)
The Signs of a
Suicidal Person:
depression, out of character behavior,
lack of sleep, loss of appetite, self neglect,
lack of motivation, sudden bouts of anger,
getting sick more often, unable to concentrate,
unable to make decisions, lack of interest in
social activities,
expressed bouts of helplessness,
hopelessness, feeling like a failure and
desperation, cleaning up (i.e. room is cleaned,
everything is put into order),
creating a will or taking out Life
Insurance, giving away possessions with specific
meaning, saying goodbyes or sharing final
wishes, expressing a wish to die or commit
suicide
What you can
do If you are feeling suicidal: You are not
alone · There is no reason to feel ashamed of
your feelings, tell someone that you trust –
you need the support of another person to help
you through this difficult time. You are not
lacking courage when you do this – you are
showing it. Call a suicidal crisis line –
these people are trained and most have felt some
of what you are going through
Go to your doctor – it may partly be
due to a medical issue that requires some
medication to help get you through Allow
yourself to grieve · Give yourself credit that
you’re still here – you can beat this Take
one day at a time – focus on each step that
you take. You can get through this
If you know someone who may be suicidal Try
talking to them and get them to talk about their
feelings and open up with you. Find a safe place
where the person will feel comfortable to talk
to you. Take them seriously. Don’t give advice – just listen. They need to feel
support and encouragement. Don’t judge the
person – you have no idea what it is like to
be in their situation. Ask the person if he/she
has a plan for killing him/herself Do not say
‘should’ – that is a guilt word and will
only increase the person’s feelings of failure
because they ‘couldn’t do what you
suggested. Ask if they are willing to go to
their doctor (suggest that you could go with
them for moral support). Set up a plan for the
next few days – help them get help (from
parents, doctors, teachers, counselors, suicidal
help-line, etc.)
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